Does my ex-friend suffer from narcissism? let's find out

It's hard not to confuse the two, although it really can be difficult to distinguish between the two. It's easier said than done. For there are many similarities between her and a narcissist. Despite this though there are distinct qualities and characteristics that each of these have that set them apart. In fact,  it's almost as if she and a narcissist are complete and polar opposites, but are they?

We've encountered at least one borderline personality disorder sufferer.
At first I brushed her off as just being clingy, maybe even overly clingy.  Or maybe just lonely.  Just drama filled. However, her behavior is not something to be taken lightly. It's more than just clingyness, admiration, moodyness, loneliness etc. It's not you, it's them. We've all been there that friend that just won't seem to give you any space. Must be on the phone with you at all times. And if you dare not answer the calls seem like they will never cease. One missed call two, three, maybe even four. But then things escalates. The calls and texts up to ten. And you're left with an uneasy feeling at the bottom of your stomach. And a thought in the back of your head. What is wrong with this person?

Let's visit the characteristics of my ex friend and then a narcissist.

Her Personality Traits Simplified

1. Needy
2. Territorial
3. Jealous
4. Possessive
5. Demanding
6. "Needs You"
7. Dependent
8. Does not respect boundaries
9. Abandonment Issues
10. Emotional
11. Childlike/ Immature
12. Expressive
13. Poor relationships
14. Unhealthy relationships
15. Tends to "scare away" friends
16. Feels like cycles are repeating, victimization
17. Expressive (Emotional Wreck)
18. May seem emotionally unstable
19. Obsessive
20. Not afraid to seem "desperate"
21. Not ruled by pride
22. Any attention is satisfactory & sufficient to them whether negative or positive.
23. Just the fact that you stopped what you were doing to tell them not to contact you makes them feel important.
24. You'll know when they're being vindictive because they're quick to let you know. It's blatant, it's obvious versus a narcissist's covert, undercover attacks.
25. Intrusive, nosey

Narcissists on the other hand I like to refer to as Masters of Disguise. 

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Traits Simplified

1. Sneaky
2. Covert
3. Undercover
4. Passive-aggresive
5. Seemingly emotionless unless they're trying to mirror your emotions in an attempt to gain your trust.
6. Discreet
7. Guarded, mysterious demeanor
8. Listeners not speakers
9. Tends to "parrot" what this means is repeating back information as if they were the original
10. Usually have no interests of their own or only do things to outdo others
11. Prideful
12. Only begs as a last resort when their "life supply" is officially done with them, they panic to gain that host that they've been leeching off of back not with remorse and realization for their wrongdoing but out of desperation.
13. Uses ignoring as a weapon
14. Thrives and controls through neglect
15. Will not acknowledge you
16. Would rather find new victims than admit wrongdoings when that fails they'll resort to number 12.
17. Acts Uninvolved, uninterested but in reality are interested in harming you
18. Perfect pretenders
19. Emotionally unavailable, distant
20. Relationships with their victims are co-dependent. 
21. Relationship bonds are so strong because their victims become obsessed with trying to understand how they became the way they are. ("You'll lose your mind trying to understand theirs.")
22. Cares a great deal but acts non-chalant
23. Heavily involved in your life but you just don't realize.
24. Envious, will want to destroy and "become" you.
25. Perfect at making it seem like everything they're guilty of doing you're actually doing.
26. Perfect at having the people outside of your relationship fooled. Like you're the crazy one.
27. Sees emotions as weakness and letting people into their private lives.
28. Shares almost nothing.
29. Listens, they'll know about you but you know nothing about them.

Let us visit the similarities between her and narcissism.

• Both want to be the center of your attention.
• Both can thrive off of your attention whether positive or negative though borderline would prefer positive and only crave negative once they could not contact you, they want a reaction. They want to disturb and disrupt you.
• The both want others to take the blame for their actions and will redirect anything they do onto you. Narcissists though much more than Borderline. Narcissists thrive off of not taking accountability for their actions.
• Narcissists are obsessed with your affection, satisfaction etc. but unlike Borderline who tried to win it through force and being assertive and pushy. Narcissists non-chalantly win your attention through neglect and ignoring tactics. 
• Both can put on a facade. Narcissists however are way better at disguising truths and realities. 
• Both can be very immature.
• Both are liars.
• Both are extremely selfish but borderline just wants companionship.

So based on this break down who do you think is worse? Who would you rather have in your life? Tough choice. lol